My recent post on ADHD and Substance Abuse was THE MOST VIEWED POST I have written to date. 108 hits in 8 days for a little blog like mine sends a pretty clear message.

I have also received many emails asking me to focus more on this subject because so many in the ADD/ADHD community seem to be dealing with the issue in their own lives. Alcohol and drug abuse (illegal and prescription) are certainly a very real challenge for someone with ADHD, as it is for many others.

My favorite resource to share is an informational booklet, created by Al-anon Family Group Headquarters, and published just this year. It is current, easy to read and filled with the basics to get you started. Whether you’re a parent, a child, a spouse, a sibling or a friend of someone with a drug or alcohol problem, this booklet is a great first step to understanding what you can do to help yourself live a healthier life.

Al-anon Faces Alcoholism 2011

If you feel that Al-anon or Alateen could be right for you, please reach out to them and find out about meeting times and locations in your area. To check out their website, click here.

I will be writing a post about my personal connection to this disease, once I find the words. I’ve been trying for 3 weeks. It’s a great deal harder than I had imagined it would be. I’m working on it.

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I always loved this quote, by William W. Purkey:

“Dance like no one is watching. Love like you’ll never be hurt. Sing like no one is listening. Live like it’s heaven on earth.”

What would YOU do, if no one else was there to judge you? What would you try that you’re too afraid to? Would you dance? Would you sing? Would you love?

If I had been asked these questions a few months ago, I would have said at least three things…

1 – I would blog about ADHD.

2 – I would paint.

3 – I would play piano.

One down and two to go. 🙂

I have an idea! Let’s all step out of our comfort zones today, in some way, whether big or small. Join me and try something that you’ve been putting off because you’re afraid or intimidated. Sign up for a new class, visit a new restaurant or try a new recipe.

Need something smaller? Try picking up the phone when you want to email, saying hi to one of the other moms at the park or smiling at the cute guy who waits for the bus on your corner (if you’re single that is).  😉

The Virtual ADHD Conference has begun and I am very impressed so far. The speakers are interesting, the content is relevant and the way it is all organized is AMAZING!

I’ll admit, I was skeptical at first. I thought I was going to be bored listening to podcasts all day, but yesterday was fantastic! I couldn’t wait to hear more! By the end of the day, I had a million new ideas floating around in my head. More importantly though, I was buzzing with excitement and renewed enthusiasm for what can be done to improve my son’s life.

Today, I’ll be missing a few sessions but I’ll be able to download what I’ve missed and listen to it at my own convenience. I’ll also be able to download the slides and session notes that go with it. It’s perfect for those with ADHD!

What does this have to do with Tip Tuesday? I’m getting to it. 🙂

I nearly missed out on this unique learning opportunity because it was different and I was afraid it wouldn’t be the right fit for me. I was afraid I would be bored. I was afraid to waste the money on the conference fees. I was afraid to try something new. And I nearly missed out on something great.

So my tip this week is based on a lesson we’ve all been taught, but sometimes forget. We cannot, and should not, live our lives based on fear. We need to embrace the successes and challenges that come from trying something new. And if we fail, we need to accept our mistakes for what they are – opportunities to learn more and do better.

Good luck! 🙂

 

He Did It!

October 1, 2010

After two weeks of tryouts, we found out tonight that D made the soccer team! We’re so happy for him! He’s really had to put himself out there and try something new with kids who had been playing for years.

It was a challenge and it was scary (for him to get out there and for us to watch) but he didn’t give up! And I didn’t run out onto the field and hug him either! Trust me, it was close a few times. After all, that’s my BABY! 😛

Thankfully, J reminded me that he’s nearly 12 and would have died of embarrassment if I had even waved to him from the sidelines. Then he handed me Baby Q, an actual baby still, and told me to do what I needed to. So I hugged him and kissed him all over and got it all out of my system so I could be more focused and calm for D. It worked and neither one of us caused him any embarrassment. Yet.

Just wait until he plays his first game. 😉

Bullying is Unacceptable!

October 1, 2010

This is too important a message not to share. Watch the short message above.

Bullying of any type is unacceptable. Some children feel so alone in the world that they feel their only option is ending their lives. It needs to stop. Things need to change.

We need to teach our children how to respect each other’s differences. We need to model this acceptance for them on a daily basis. So I am urging each of you to take a moment and think about what you could be doing to improve the lives of our children.

Thank you.

Homework

September 25, 2010

Up…and down…up….and down….surprise spin…and flip….and we’re back up…and back down….etc.

It’s a common challenge for all parents. However, for those of us addressing the needs of a child with ADHD or learning difficulties, homework can be downright frustrating and a real buzzkill. And that’s on a good day. On a bad day, you may not get to it at all or if you do, you may wish you hadn’t. Ugh.

*** Editor’s Note : I just re-read that and after nearly two hours of wasted time and several attempts at homework, I may in fact be too frustrated to write this post tonight. So I think for your benefit and for mine, blogging will have to wait. I’m off to watch an episode of one of my favorite comedies – How I Met Your Mother – and shake off the frustrations of the evening instead.

Soccer Tryouts Today

September 19, 2010

Oh, how nervous am I?

D is attending his FIRST EVER team sports tryout today! (He hopes to join the competitive soccer league where we live.)

I am trying to think positive. I am. But I am afraid for him.

I have been sitting up, late at night, wondering…Is he ready for such a commitment? Is he up for the challenge of learning all the drills, skills and rules that go with joining a competitive league? Is he ready for this new environment and all the pressure that can come with it? Will his coach understand him and be able to bring out the best in him? Will his teammates accept him, though he lacks the experience they already have?

Have I mentioned that it’s a TEAM SPORT? And it’s competitive? And it requires a serious commitment? Eeek.

I must, however, pull myself together and breeze through the next few hours looking calm and confident. I can do it. I will do it. Because that is what D needs right now and I want more than anything to see him succeed.

PS – I have been warned by D that I am NOT to embarrass him with my “Gushing-Mom-Pride” today. So I am NOT to cheer him on…or make thumbs up signs…or really acknowledge him in any way. Therefore I’ll be forced to cheer loudly…in my head…“Go D! Go D! Go D! Whoooooo!” 😛

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